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Lessons of Lifelong Intimacy

Building a Stronger Marriage Without Losing Yourself—The 9 Principles of a Balanced and Happy Relationship

by Michael Gurian
Graham Winton
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Recent university studies show that the most frequent reason relationships dissolve is not abuse, alcoholism, money, or even infidelity, but rather a lack of emotional fulfillment. Most books on love and marriage focus on teaching communication and conflict skills, but neglect to help couples with the "other half" of intimacy-separateness. In this practical yet personal guide to love, THE LESSONS OF LIFELONG INTIMACY: Eight Principles of a Balanced and Happy Marriage by Michael Gurian (Atria, May 2015) explores how "intimate separateness" is key to creating a healthy partnership. The book outlines a twelve-stage model which provides long-term goals and focal points for dialogue that can help couples work through arguments, build a healthy relationship, resolve past hurts, and foster closeness. Gurian also delves into differences in white and gray matter between the male and female brain (which may explain the varying needs for affection and independence), deviations in verbal-emotive development, and the effects these have on relationships. Michael Gurian, one of the world's foremost authorities on gender dynamics with over twenty-five years of family and marital counseling practice, has authored twenty-seven books on gender psychology published in twenty-one languages, many of them New York Times bestsellers. The Gurian Institute, which he co-founded in 1996, conducts international research and corporate and government training for NASA, the U.S. Department of the Treasury, Google, and Cisco, among others. Gurian's work has been featured multiple times in nearly all the major media, including the New York Times, Washington Post, USA Today, Newsweek, Time, Psychology Today, AARP Magazine, People Magazine, Reader's Digest, the Wall Street Journal, and he has made numerous appearances on the Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, PBS, National Public Radio, to highlight a few. He's a prolific speaker, traveling to dozens of cities annually to deliver keynote speeches at various schools and conferences, including Harvard University, Johns Hopkins University, and Stanford University.

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    May 26, 2015

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      • ISBN: 9781490671222
      • File size: 324205 KB
      • Duration: 11:15:25

  • Languages

    • English

  • Reviews

    • Publisher's Weekly

      March 16, 2015
      Marriage counselor Gurian (The Wonder of Aging) explains his theory of “intimate separateness” as the key to healthy long-term relationships. The theory draws comparisons between the parent/child bond and the bond between lovers, establishing the need to cultivate space and boundaries lest individuals become “dangerously merged.” He cites typical relationship pitfalls like fear of abandonment, projection, and power struggles, suggesting various psychological tools and distancing tactics as solutions. A chapter on the inherent differences between male and female brains suggests the need to “embrace rather than avoid innate differences” and make use of the “male brain’s proclivity for increased separateness.” Quizzes allow readers to assess the current state of their relationships, and to look out for “bad marital habits” and trouble signs. Contro-
      versially, Gurian argues that “lack of
      emotional fulfillment may not be enough reason to divorce” and blames feminism for creating a fissure between the sexes. He denies entirely the continued existence of patriarchal constructs in Western society, even stating ludicrously that “society has degraded males over the last 50 years.” The author almost certainly has it right that most relationships could be bettered by partners cultivating space for their own lives, but his ideas on gender politics are simply mistaken. Agent: Bonnie Solow, Solow Literary Enterprises Inc.

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